My best design for #letterpress yet. #wedding
My best design for #letterpress yet. #wedding
can we please support the Dream Act?
i too support gay rights
#inauguration day! Wish I could be there, but satisfied watching from the living room.
Happy Birthday Diego
waiting for th dr. to come in and my view is nostalgic. Met J2 at that hospital completely by chance. we both worked shifts we weren’t scheduled for. Then i changed my schedule and study group schedule to see him again. #TrueLove #Blessed Next minth is 19 yrs together
livibg room floor is clean and boring so you get #real,lufr: the floor of my hone office. Notice the Queen CD set? yeah,.i can still rock out. #SABloggers #saglimpse
Soooo…. This song came up in my queue and I totally got up and danced in my office by myself, booty shaking, the works to the entire song. I was doing twirls, had my hands up in the air also praising Jesus.
I’ve had a very difficult time recently. So much so that I didn’t feel safe. I think I feel safe again. I have been vindicated. I also am starting my campaign for Fiesta Royalty by raising money for San Antonio Youth Centers. Deep down I’m a good person who just gives and gives even when I’m treated badly. So next time. Hit me up on twitter or facebook when you are feeling push back and we can have a quick little dance to pick ourselves up.
Today, I celebrate my past accomplishments and my future accomplishments. Join Me. Dance now!
It’s time to close the book on the first week of school. Whew. I survived. It was a long wicked summer. I’m not really sure how you families who work outside of the home survive. My hats off to you. I’m not really sure how you single parents manage either. My compliments. The saying goes you are only given what you can handle - it’s true. But did I really have to be tested so hard?
This summer we’ve continued to work on raise good, moral ethical children who are compassionate, forgiving, loving and everything good you can think of. This summer we dealt with hatred (gay bashing) and it reared it’s ugly head first week of school. We also dealt with a mass shooting in Colorado where one of my social media friend, Jordan, lost his sister. The funeral was tough to get through. The loss of a close loved one is so hard - A sibling? I couldn’t even imagine. Jordan said something profound at his sister’s funeral: “If you’re putting your dreams on hold, you STOP that RIGHT NOW. You chase those dreams. You don’t know how long you have.”
And so with those words, I’ve put my plan in action. I’ve continued to cut the cancer out of my life… That cancer manifests itself in toxic soccer people, crazy family members and in general anything that isn’t positive. It’s been an awesome August.
So what’s new with us?
One other thing - I swabbed my cheek to be entered in the marrow registry. I’ve always wanted to do it, but never have. I was inspired when I read Jordan Ghawi’s blog this summer. I felt so helpless when he and his family had the worst summer ever - losing his sister in such a way. So this was my way to honor him and know that I’ve always thought highly of him. While I couldn’t do much to comfort him, he should know we were swabbed and hopefully we will help someone some day.
Jaz and I survived the first week of school and can’t wait to see what the weekend brings. Frank is at football game, Alex has cross country Saturday morning and Isa has a soccer tournament. Regardless of outcome, they continue to be good sportsmen, give a great effort and make no excuses for whatever the outcome. I’m proud of them, of us. We are happy. You go out there and get happy too.
Wowza! I just watched today’s Dr. Phil episode. I’ve been looking forward to this episode since I caught wind of it a few weeks back and more importantly the new reality series by Deion Sanders called “Sports Dads”.
Opening scene: we meet Kia, self professed over zealous parent who has a beautiful daughter who is on THREE basketball teams. Her daughter seems like a great athlete and overall good kid, but her mom is hard pressed to change her ways, even after appearing on ‘Sport’s Dads’ and the Dr. Phil show.
I had some good take aways from this show - all moments in my own parenting life where the light bulb has gone off before.
My first one is within minutes of the show. Kia has her daughter on three teams which requires serious time management. Mom wakes her up, drives her every where, completely manages her life. I learned ages ago to gently push and remind my kids about their extra curricular activities. How will they develop the hunger and passion for a sport if you do everything for them? I have two athletes in my home, Alex (16 - ROTC) and Isabel (10 - club soccer). Alex wants to practice everyday. He wants to go early, stay late. His performance shows this. Isa goes to practice twice a week steady and three times a week most times. She loves her sport, but we can’t give or teach passion, it has to develop organically. Last weekend she played defense first half and keeper second half. For Isabel, this was a positive. She loves to play, any and all positions. She finds value in defense and in assists. She doesn’t have to score to be happy with the outcome. But she is frustrated on her current team. It’s not as welcoming as her previous teams. She is no longer the leader - all things achievable, but on her own time by her own doing. More importantly she is frustrated with all the goals scored against her team. We know she has a lot of skill both physically and mentally. We as the parents have to let it simmer, cook and then the light bulb goes off in her own head. After these first few weeks of games she decided to help out at keeper position and to make sure she has those extra practices. (We were beaming with pride on the inside Saturday as she practiced two - two hour sets - ON HER OWN.) Is she the best keeper - no way. But are we proud she is practicing on her own and wanting to sacrifice for the better of the team - hell yes!
This is applied through all facets of parenting and life. Is it easier if we do all the laundry? Yes, it gets done faster and cleaner, but how do they learn when they are on their own? Are you seeing a pattern here? As a person who used to manage a lot of people, I would often just do it myself, because I knew I would get it done and get it done right. I robbed my support staff of learning and taking ownership and I robbed myself of good support staff. Once I realized to teach, my work went so much smoother. All life lessons applicable everywhere.
I highly recommend watching this episode of Dr. Phil if you can. I was happy I didn’t relate to this parent at all. It’s a great primer on what NOT to do.